My Views Have Changed

I was going through old posts and looked at this gem Monogamy and cheating and realized how much my views have changed in two years.

I still believe that cheating is having an emotional affair. However, I also now believe that giving your body over to someone is also cheating. Sure, we were put on this earth to procreate. But when you have a love so deep with somebody, that's the only person you want to be with. You can't fathom being with anybody else. At least I can't. It's about the communication being so deep with your loved one that you can't imagine your body being with anyone but them.

I didn't think I'd ever have the kind of connection like I have with Shawn. I'm comfortable at the pace we're moving because I know, in the long run, he's going to be there. We don't have to rush things. I'm not afraid of him going somewhere or looking elsewhere. When he tells me he loves me, I hear the sincerity in his voice. I know he's interested in everything in my life. That struck me when he first sat down with me to help me fill my med containers one week, asking me what each pill is and what it's for, and he's sat down to help me every week since. He can tell by looking at me if I have a stomach ache or if my head or shoulder hurts. If we have a disagreement, we sit down and talk it out. I've never dreamed of anything like I have now.

And so my views are now monogamy is possible, cheating is more than just emotional - it IS physical as well - but after this, I'll try to keep my views to myself and not preach it out.

You do you, boo. It is what it is.

Until the next dirt...