Monogamy and cheating

Maybe it's my bipolar brain, but I don't think some people are built for monogamy. I think they can go along in life for years on end faking it, but they're doing just that - faking it.

Monogamy is hard. It's been a topic of great discussion lately with my therapist. And maybe I should keep it with my therapist, but as you know from reading this blog, I am brutally open and honest about my life. I keep plugging away at it, because I love what I've made out of my life. I love my family, and I respect my husband and the lives that we've created for ourselves.

And so that brings us to our conversation on cheating. I tried to bring up the conversation with Nick of what he considered cheating, just because I wanted an honest, open dialogue on it, to get his opinion on it. I'm sure our views on cheating differ.

My views on cheating are pretty simple. If you're having an emotional relationship with someone, with or without any sexual touching, that's cheating.

Let me see if I can explain myself. I think that sometimes you can get from certain people what you can't get from other people. Maybe you're happier receiving one thing from a woman that you can't get from a man, or vice versa. Maybe different people do things differently. Maybe you just need something different. And I'm talking in the bedroom here. That's pure biology. We were put on this planet to mate. Yes, we've evolved so we're not just grabbing each other by the hair anymore and dragging each other off to do it (unless you like it that way; who am I to judge?). You can spice things up in the bedroom as much as you like, sometimes you just want a little something different. A piece of pecan when you've had apple you're whole life. That's why romance books are so popular for women, why men view porn.

In my view, however, if someone is seeking an emotional relationship with someone else, there's something fundamentally missing besides the sex. There's no use being together anyway. You're missing some connection with your partner that you're seeking somewhere else in your mind and soul. And that's kind of sad.

I've always had a deep, soul connection with Nick. I can't imagine my life without him. I always want him in it. Even when something happens and I think, "I can't do this anymore," I can't imagine what it would be like to be without him.

So how badly have I pissed you off with this post? What are your thoughts on monogamy? How about cheating? Blast off in the comments section here on blogger if you don't want to comment on my Facebook page! Feel free to email me if you don't want people to know your thoughts but would like to say something about it!

Until next week's dirt...