Taking Responsibility

I think it's very important to take responsibility for the things I've done. I was a cheater in a former life. I put Nick through a lot of heartache. And I am deeply sorry for the pain I caused him. I understand because of the way I hurt him, he wanted to hurt me back.

I have done much to change who I am. It took me a long time to realize people could change. I didn't believe I could change, honestly. But I look at myself now and realize I am, in fact, a different person. If I can take strides to change who I am, obviously it means other people can take strides in changing who they are.

I believe taking responsibility for the things we've done as humans to hurt people is at the top of the list in changing. I've come to accept I may never get to apologize for the errors I've made, the wrongs I've committed. In these instances, I can only vow to be a better person than I was in another lifetime.

I'm happy where I am now. I still have some struggles, yes. I've been learning how to talk and communicate when things go awry. I've been learning how to ask for time to myself, although I didn't know how to ask at first. Communication is hard when you've learned how to keep everything bottled up inside for a lifetime.

I'm proud of the changes I've made, and I'm proud of the changes others around me have made.

Here's to happier changes!


Until the next dirt...

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