Ten Weeks

It's officially ten weeks since Nick and I separated. It's actually been the fastest 10 weeks I've ever experienced. There's been so much excitement of meeting new people, getting settled into my new apartment, learning how to be a single parent, fighting for my rights and Matthew's rights...the list could be endless. But I'm happier than I have been in years. Being with Matthew has been incredible. The changes in his attitude are amazing. He acknowledges me when I talk to him, and if he doesn't, I simply ask him to do so and he does. He's warmed up to everyone here in the apartment building and talks to them. He has friends here. We sing constantly. He stopped having accidents at night. He's so much more calm. Very rarely do we have a break down.

I still wish Nick the best, but man, does he know how to push my buttons. My main goal, however, is to keep Matthew in the best environment possible. I truly believe my leaving was the right thing to do. Matthew is much calmer. I've started going to therapy weekly because of this divorce and to really delve into the center of my "stuff." I was serious about working on my issues when I left. At least I can be a better person for me, and especially for Matthew.

I miss Bryan something fierce, though. I feel awful that I'm not there to make sure he's okay. I realize he's old enough to take care of himself, but he'll always be my baby. And he's so gentle hearted that he silently takes any crap he's given without an argument, plus he'll clean up after the messes other people make.

And speaking of my handsome Bryan, I got a wonderful picture of us when he came over to visit the other week. It's like our "every other year" picture. He only allows me to take our picture together every other year, I swear!


Until the next dirt...

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  1. AnonymousJuly 10, 2022 at 8:03 AM

    So very happy for you!

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    1. bungalow54July 10, 2022 at 8:06 AM

      Sorry it says anonymous! It's me, Jennifer Sanders!

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